Mentoring Matters. This One is for my Team: Team Perseverance!

Hello my friends!  As always, I thank you for being here!  This post was inspired by a few things.  First of all this week was “Close out” week for campaign 18.  As a Sales Leadership coach of a fairly large team, that is continually growing, and advancing leadership, this week was …….. to say the least ……. CRAZY… in the BEST KIND OF WAY!  There is something about making your own way, building your own salary, your own source of income, and coaching others to do the same, that you cannot get from any employer.  It is a feeling I cannot describe, all I can say is that it is …. invigorating!  But… like anything worth having… it doesn’t come easy.  So please don’t mistake success with the easy road, because it takes dedication, great mentor-ship, humility, resiliency, enthusiasm, passion, rigor, drive, dedication, discipline, determination, and Perseverance!

This week cam off the tail end of last weeks craziness as a mompreneur!

Reflected on in this post: Freedom as an Entrepreneurial Mom!

If you are not familiar with the life-cycle or daily routine as an Avon Representative or a Sales Leadership Coach in this business, let me briefly paint this picture for you!

Every two weeks my team and I place campaign orders for our customers.  So throughout the week we are “campaigning” the current brochures, and promoting the upcoming brochures to secure future campaign success!

As a sales leader, you are mentoring your team to do the same, daily.  You are continuously coaching your team, and empowering sales leaders to become independent, forward thinking, inspirational, and empowered mentors to their teams!

It is an entirely different ball game creating leaders, to lead their team independently of you!

My days are filled with 1:1 coaching calls, team gatherings, sales strategy webinars, marketing videos, social media posting and blogging, doing recognition, connecting on old and new accounts, motivating and strategizing with current and upcoming sales leaders, goal setting, course correcting, and so much more.

A large part of my day is spent inspiring and resetting mindsets that have fallen into a rut.

In order to continue giving to my team, I too must continue growing and learning.  Therefore, throughout my daily journey I stay connected to great mentors, and closest friends on similar or higher paths in this business!

Overall creating and driving momentum every single day!  One of the hardest things to build in any business!

The common theme within all of that is, building relationships.  

Knowing your team is the most critical part of your business as a mentor!   You must know what makes them tick, what inspires them, why they came to this business, why they are still here, what motivates them (it is NOT always money), what deflates them, what distracts them, how they learn, how they don’t learn, what their barriers are (despite what THEY say their barriers are, sometimes they cannot see them).

Knowing these things is the key to motivating your team, and the pathway to achieving THEIR goals.

You cannot make this business all about you.  When they win, you win! It is simple.

To be honest the majority of my coaching connections, especially 1:1 contacts consist of listening, and promoting self discovery.  Listening to my team share their stories and struggles, and coaching them through the personal things that are holding them back.

Taking those chains and turning them into fuel.

If you think you can simply slap business strategies, calendar management, and statistics in front of someone who has no self belief, to motivate them and grow a huge business, you are mistaken.  You have to meet people where they’re at, to take them where THEY want to go. 

Often it takes coaching to help them realize first….. where they are now and how they got there.  Understanding this…. is what helps identify and illustrate the path they don’t want to travel again, and the path they need to go down to achieve what they came here for.

Then you can talk business.… put a plan into action.  Step by step with realistic, attainable, measurable goals……. and my favorite ….. a few good stretch goals to help motivate, and prove to them what I know they are capable of.  Prove to them what you see in them…. it’s a great feeling when they start to see it.

Give them confidence to leave the nest!  

The culture you create on your team, starts and ends with you.  Good or bad, you set the culture, always remember that.  We are not successful or unsuccessful because of other people, we decide, create, and nurture that.

OK so lets get to the point here….. I wanted to share this hysterical photo below….. it is a photo my husband took of me after the 5 PM EST final close out.

Quite honestly I could say nothing here and completely let the photo do the talking. ….. but … if you know me you know lack of words is not my strength…. so I am going to share with you some details on this day!  LOL

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Well…. here I am in all my glory, exhausted on my office floor, literally it was 8 PM EST in this photo, still in my pajamas, unglamified, unattractive, unfiltered, hair unbrushed, and UNBOTHERED by it all, LOL!

Team Perseverance…… with every doubtful call you made to me this week…… you all surpassed your goals…… yes, EVERY SINGLE ONE OF YOU!

I am so honored to be your mentor, and so proud of you for everything you have done, and all I know you can and will do!  Cheers to a killer close out in 2018, and an amazing kick off to 2019!  This is what your “Famous” “Glamorous” mentor looks like when you are done with me!

….. and I love it!

Thank you for being a part of my dream life!  I am not the only coach here, you all give me so much to dream for!  I love you all so much!  I’ll see you all at the top! I have no doubt! 

So much love.

Your mentor ,

Carly ❤

AVON Seaside Gardens Collection Spring Fashion and Home 2018

Good afternoon Beautiful!
I am so thrilled at the amazing feedback and customer excitement about our brand new Spring launch, Seaside Gardens.  Our brand new exclusive Clothing Line!

 

 
Remember you always get 10% off your very first order through my web site with code welcome10
 
Additionally, FREE SHIPPING always on your order of $40 or more!
 
Behold….. seaside gardens is upon us! 💃🏽💐💕
 
Check it out! 
 
Blessings,
Carly ❤

The Missing Link in Your Life and Business!

Hello everyone! Thank you for being here!

Today has been a very busy day! I was inspired by Gabriel, my 5 year old as he was frolicking around today in the snow!

Gabriel, had no school today, so naturally he was traveling around with me and baby brother, Elijah doing customer deliveries and running errands.  His endless happiness, and zest for life is contagious and I had to share with you all!

First thing this morning, Gabriel woke up ecstatic, he was over the moon that he was witnessing the very first snowfall in Upstate New York!  Of course like most parents, I woke up with both my children in my room!  Certainly this is not how I went to bed last night, I am pretty sure I remember tucking everyone in their owns beds…..

Anyway, Gabriel quickly went from being over the moon with excitement to confusion as to where his daddy was, he was convinced it was Saturday!  As you can see we had a long discussion on where his daddy was!

After we straightened this out, he went right back to my bedroom window to stare at the snow!

We went through our normal morning routine, getting everyone ready to start the day.  I finished up my customer invoicing, and packed the car for deliveries.  Of course, we had personal errands for the family to complete as well!  But…… naturally we had to do something cozy and fun for a no school/first snow day!  This is where the inspiration started for me….

All I had to suggest was that we wore cozy clothes for the day, and went to the local coffee shop for hot cocoa (COFFEE FOR MOM) and donuts!  Yes, he started the day with SUGAR, one of the most torturous decisions a mother could EVER make LOL! Today was a fun day! He was thrilled at this idea, and hopped into the car immediately!

What was so beautiful about his innocent, young excitement was…… How many adults would be not only satisfied, but GRATEFUL for 1 simple hour over coffee with their mother?  As adults we tend to be satisfied less and less with the simple things life grants us.  Are we really unhappy, or have we expected too much?  Perhaps if we change our expectations, and be grateful for the moments we have been blessed with, our days would be much happier, and more productive.

It wasn’t the donuts, or the hot cocoa that Gabriel wanted, it was my time.  Gabriel was thrilled to make a memory with his mother today, and that was enough for him!

We finished our snacks and went on to our deliveries and errands.  We sang Christmas songs as we traveled in the car!  Everyone we ran into, Gabriel, said, “Merry Christmas Eve!” Naturally in a 5 year old mind, if it is snowing, it is MOST CERTAINLY CHRISTMAS EVE! He chatted with the greeter at Walmart, about how Santa was soon coming and how he had to be a good boy!

We loaded our groceries, he pointed out everything he wanted on his Christmas list, and of course we had to get wood pellets to warm the house!   As he was pointing out EVERY toy in the store that he felt he, “Reeeeeeeally reeeeeeally Needed,” he wasn’t concerned with my saying, “No.”  He simply waited a few milliseconds and continued asking…..  He tried cutting deals with me on his behavior in exchange for a “Maybe,” an “I’ll think about it,” or a, “Let me talk to Santa about it.”  Children have an innate ability to “Close the Deal.”  They are experts in resiliency, and persist-ency!  How many times did you give up today in your business, or personally?

How many follow up calls, or conversations have you skipped in your business this week, because you felt the customer or lead would say no?  How many opportunities did you miss Today alone?  How many people walked past you, that you didn’t approach because you were scared they would say no?

Gabriel, complimented a little boy on his “Cool hat” as he walked by him, completely unconcerned as to what the little boy might think of him! When was the last time you paid a stranger a compliment, or started a conversation with someone in the grocery line?!  You know that could be your nest highest seller on your team, or your most loyal customer for the next 30 years!  Think about that………..

We continued on……….. He “Helped” me load the big bags of pellets one at a time!  What a good boy!

We finally made it home, cutting a few errands short, and started unloading the car!  As I looked up I witnessed this……

Gabriel, was not disappointed in the weather, it wasn’t “Too cold, too wet, too miserable, not sunny enough, or less than he’d hoped or expected.”  Gabriel, went to bed with no expectation for today, so he woke up with no disappointments.  He was simply GRATEFUL, for this day, for the cold weather, the snow, and the hot cocoa and donuts with his mama, the little boys hat in the store that made him smile, and so much more.  Gabriel was thankful for the moments he had been blessed with from the moment he opened his eyes this morning.  Today was more than enough for him!

I also believe our children own up to the names we give them, he truly is, “The Messenger.”

Maybe we should take notes from our children more often……  What great mentors they truly are!

Today I am #Grateful!

Please share your inspirations from your children in the comments!  I am eager to hear!

Mommy Has Lost her Marbles!

  Hi all!  So as you all know I am a very busy entrepreneur with two “littles” in tow at all times!  Although challenging, I wouldn’t have it any other way!

As parents we all have those moments when our children say something that completely puts us in our place!! HAHA We think, “Oh my goodness where did you hear that!?”

Well to be honest I am quite often taken back by my 5 year old, Gabriel.  He is a very smart, and vibrant little man! Believe me there are some days I feel like pulling my hair out!  For example when I am trying to create a training video for my team, or a recognition video!  I literally have to re-record things 3 million times!  ……And FORGET GOING LIVE!! That never goes well! So naturally I feel like I fail somewhere daily, whether it be as a mommy, or as a business coach!

Here is one mommy fail………. I said, “Gabriel, please mommy really has to get this done for her business! If you don’t stop running in and out of my office I am going to rip my hair out.”

……Ummmmmm, now what was that going to solve?

That is exactly what my 5 year old was thinking when he said, “Oh, mommy, please don’t rip your hair out!  First of all it would hurt! Also, it would look terrible on you Bideo (video)!  I’ll just go sit in the living room.”  As if, I should have just asked!!!!!!!

I looked at him and thought, you know what….. he’s right!  Why didn’t I just simply ask him to politely stop, and sit down!?  What a little stinker! He drove me to the brink of insanity, and then completely flipped the script, and practically told me I was unreasonable and unhinged!  He then solved the problem, and walked out!!!

So, why don’t we have critical thinking skills as parents, in the moment of chaos!?

Truthfully, because we are jugglers, moms and dads, are amazing creatures!  We do it all don’t we!

How many parents do that on a daily basis!?

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Sometimes I don’t even answer people when they ask me something!  I swear they must think I am crazy!  I will remember conversations, days later, and call the person back and say, “I’m sorry, did I ever answer you?”  Or, “I am sorry I was listening, I didn’t mean to ignore you, I am interested in what you are saying, here are my thoughts on that…..” Usually it is because in the matter of 2 seconds one of my children is doing something completely chaotic and unsafe and I have to jet RIGHT THEN!

Yesterday, I actually made a point to put some time into myself!   After all I do have a beauty business!  What am I thinking running around in slippers and a mumu, with a bun on top of my head, right!  So I was able to take an uninterrupted shower, (highly unusual), I did my hair and makeup, I even put on my Avon jewelry!

As soon as Gabriel saw me, he said, “Oh Mommy, you look beautiful, you should do your hair more often! HAHA As if he has given me SO MANY OPPORTUNITIES to take care of myself!  It was like the sweetest thing, and the most irritating statement ever all at once!  LOL

Isn’t that what our children do though!!  Drive us nuts, and then do something so cute you completely forget how crazy they make you!

So I suppose my message is, “Keep going mom/dad, you got this!” Besides, there is no use in throwing in the towel yet, because in 5 minutes they will do something else chaotic HAHA!

So here I am making light of my continuous office interruptions!! Mama is a Beauty Boss, and a Multi-tasking mama! ❤ 

“Delight in Weakness…. For I am Strong”

2 Corinthians 12:9-10 (NIV)

9 But he said to me, “My grace is sufficient for you, for my power is made perfect in weakness.” Therefore I will boast all the more gladly about my weaknesses, so that Christ’s power may rest on me. 10 That is why, for Christ’s sake, I delight in weaknesses, in insults, in hardships, in persecutions, in difficulties. For when I am weak, then I am strong.

If you have been reading my blog, you know that I find inspiration, encouragement, motivation, and peace in scripture.  There are so many verses within the Bible that build momentum in entrepreneurs.  The above verse, 2 Corinthians 12:9-10 inspires me in a big way and I felt I should share this with my readers!

Looking at the Title you might think….”Delight in my Weakness? Shouldn’t we capitalize on our strengths?” Strange concept right!

However, what this verse tells me is the further I get away from my faith the less I am relying on God to work through me, in my business.  I am convinced that I Am right where I am suppose to be in business, as it has been made very clear to me through my faith.

The blessings continue into our home, our hearts, and those around me as I mentor them to build their own business as well.  One of the many things that keep me close to the word, is withing statement, “My grace is sufficient for you, for my power is made perfect in weakness.”

A few weeks ago I was in our church service and the pastor summarized this very easily and clearly for everyone….. He said something to the effect of, when things are hard in our lives, sickness, financial difficulty, family struggles, business struggles, whatever the struggle may be, isn’t that when we find our selves praying harder?  On our knees begging God for guidance, forgiveness, etc…?

Why? Why is our faith stronger in weakness?  Should we not pray always?  We immediately start relying on God as soon as we feel weak!? Could it be that God continues our struggle until we get closer to him?  Like a father saying, “Son, it is so great to see you, it has been a while.”  You see he knows the plan, he has made the plan.

I even find myself doing this! It’s our human nature!

It is natural to think we are weakest in our hardships, and difficulties, but the truth is we are our strongest because we begin to see God’s word, and our faith is stronger.

Dare I go out and say we are actually weakest in our high times in life?  It is then that we stop praying, because we assume everything is going great.  “Why pray….. I don’t need anything!”  This is why we are weakest in high times, we are furthest from God’s word then.  This is when we need to be cautious, to remain giving, and faithful!

It is so strange, we seek help in times of weakness, but have no trouble taking all the credit when things are seemingly going well! As is we did all the work without Him. Again, it is our human nature!

Search your heart, is your faith stronger, are you praying more because you want only high times, and success in life?  Don’t be afraid of the hardships, know they will come, but the plan is great.

So in life, and in business, I try to always remain humble, and seek God’s guidance.  I ask him to show me where I can do my greatest work through his plan.  This is how I know I am where I am suppose to be!

Everyday I empower women and men to start and grow their own business!  The gift of financial freedom, family time, as well as non-monetary things like self confidence, and so much more!

In my post, “Unconventional Mentors” I slightly referenced how bullying is a real thing especially in schools.  At the time I didn’t see anything good in it, as my school days were unbearable at times.  As I grew older I realized how grateful I was for having been the victim of bullying for so long, as it honestly strengthened me.  I am unaffected by people and their opinions because I see them as people as well.  What I mean, is they too deserve God’s grace, and I pray for them, because I know I cannot help them only he can.

Today, I am a strong, RESILIENT, leader free from needing validation from people.  The only thing I seek is God’s guidance and grace.

As I stated in a previous post titled, “Be Strong and Courageous,” although I was scared to launch a business and turn away down a guaranteed salary, I prayed on it, and took my beautiful leap of faith!  I am more certain everyday that I made the right choice with His guidance.

I may be scared some days, but I stay focused on my faith, and keep on my mission!

In business there will always be obstacles, weaknesses, hardships, and more.  But I encourage you to, “Delight in your weakness,” because I believe God is doing his greatest works in you then.  Stay close to him and his word, thank him for the plan he has set forth and his grace.  Have faith that something AMAZING is going to come of this time!

Like the scripture says, “For when I am weak, then I am strong.”  

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Unconventional Mentors Part Two: Lessons From Our Children!

As I travel through my days building a home based business with my children in tow, I realized that even in their tiny little frames, they are our greatest mentors.

Although the lessons my boys have taught me are countless, I will share a few of the big lessons I have learned from my busy days as a mother in business!

LESSON # 1: TIME MANAGEMENT

Honestly!  Who is more efficient than a mother on the go!  We can dress several moving children, walk the dog, vacuum the living room, have dinner cooking, and plan a party over the phone…… all while on an active webinar for our business!  

Be honest YOU’VE been there!!

Just like in everyday life there are things that are more important or more productive to do first (on the 10 mile long to do list)!  With my children’s crazy schedule, my husbands crazy schedule, and so many other daily family and life things all going on at once, I have learned to be the most productive and efficient business owner EVER, and all from my children!

I’ve learned to take advantage of nap time for making follow up phone calls to customers, training calls to team members, and many more administrative things.  I have learned to have the car packed on nap time so when the baby wakes I am not trying to carry him and my customer orders, and all my advertising and marketing materials to the car at once!

My delivery route is a masterpiece, wasting not 1 single mile!  All in a two day system, and home in time to pick up my kinder-gardener!  I have learned to spend my time where it counts most!

Is it safe to say that as moms we are the most efficient in our crazy state!? 

LESSON # 2: WORK/LIFE BALANCE

As crazy as my days are trying to build an empire from a home office and managing my family, and home, I wouldn’t trade it for anything!

Another thing I’ve learned is when you work from home sometimes your family life and your work life get inter-meshed! My children have taught me to separate the two!

It is so important to have set office hours, and dedicated family time!  Get down on the floor with your kids, read a book, do a puzzle, simply play peek a boo, or bake cookies with them!  You can have it all!  You just have to set clear, firm boundaries!

Working on our United States Puzzle!

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My children know when the office doors are closed mommy is on an important call!  They have learned to be OK with this, because they know I will be with them at a certain time every night!  However, if I waiver from that time with them, the entire system fails.

Trust me the calls can wait until tomorrow!  A good friend once told me, “Carly, the most important work you’ll ever do is within the walls of your own home.” I remember this everyday!  I can fail one day at my business and wake up tomorrow and fix it, I cannot fix failing my family!

I am not saying I try to be a perfect mother, there is no such thing! I can, however, give them my time and attention.

That said my children have also taught me to……..

LESSON # 3: LOWER MY STANDARDS (A BIT)

I have always been a high achiever, perfectionism drove me crazy most of my life.  My children have most definitely taught me to lower my standard, in a great way!

Often when people hear, “Lower standards,” they associate it with a negative change.  What I am referencing is a very positive change!

Again, working from home, you can easily mesh your family life with your business life.  Of course like every mother, I love my home to look like a show room floor 24/7.  However, we all know this is next to impossible.

How many mom’s are staring at a living room and bedrooms that look like a tornado just passed through?

Turned my head for two seconds….. MAYHEM!

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It’s OK!  That can be fixed on Saturday!  During the week, I work on growing my business, and spend my dedicated time with my family, as planned!  Don’t Deviate from the plan!  Set an “Out of the Office” auto reply on email, post office hours everywhere, on your voicemail, email signature, and office doors!

I have learned to be OK with less than my normal standard.  As long as the family is safe and happy, and business is healthy, the rest can wait!

Vacuum lines are NOT OK, if that means my children can’t have healthy play time!

Here is what happens when I start to cut into family time…… Break in…..

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Or movies in the corner of my office on the other computer! They truly are like an alarm clock……

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What is more important?  Do you think your children will remember the vacuum lines and clean dishes, or the laughter you shared rolling around on the messy living room floor with them?  Or the flour all over the kitchen from baking cookies together?  Or the washable finger paint all over the kitchen island from making art together?

It is going to be OK MOM, that’s why the good Lord gave us tomorrow!  Let it go!

LESSON # 4: LEARNING TO SAY, “NO”

This is from the girl who is eager to help EVERYONE!  I am certainly a nurturer in every sense of the word, I have always been this way.  Which of course leaves me open to becoming overworked and overwhelmed.  I find people easily open up to me and seek help through me.

My children have certainly shown me how, and why I need to say , “No,” at times.  Staying focused on my, “Why” (reason for building a home based business) makes saying no much easier.  If I take on everything I take away from my family, my focus, my goals, and my business.

Of course I want to be able to help especially those in need, however I am quickly reminded that I cannot help everyone.  My children certainly show it when my focus is on too many projects!  Their behavior worsens, their schedule is off, they are MISERABLE, everything starts falling apart.

They once again, bring me back to my center, and remind me where I need to stay focused.  I can pray about the rest!

It is so strange, when we think about mentors, we naturally think about people that have been in our shoes, or someone older.  As I stated in my previous post, “Unconventional Mentors,” you can truly find inspiration anywhere it is just a matter of opening your eyes.

Take a look at your, “Why,” have you lost focus?

I thank God everyday for my children, as they truly have been the greatest mentors in my life, and the fuel that drives me EVERY DAY! 

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Bravery

Just a quick note to the mamas!  Be brave and believe in YOU!

48465A05-590C-4B13-BA12-B2A9D3FD13E9.jpeg#Belief in yourself and your #faith may take much courage and a ton of bravery…. but if there’s a slight chance of #success …. that just means the rest is up to you and #strong faith….. dig in and go for it … give it everything you’ve got ..even if it seems the chips are all stacked against you…. bet on you always …. 💃🏽and pray through the process in high times and low times….. sometimes we forget to pray and be thankful when things are going well …. 🙏#mommyandme #momslookingforwork #mentoringmatters #coach #financialfreedom #networkerlife