The Relationships Built In Network Marketing

I was so inspired today I had to write this post…

#Networkmarketing is not solely about selling a product….

Days like today and so many are about creating and nurturing #genuinerelationships. It’s about genuinely caring about the person in front of you and finding out who they are, what motivates them, what their passions are, what makes them tick, what their favorite things in life are, and and so much more. It is a #relationship business, It is not about lipstick 💄

The sales will come once the relationships are formed…..

If it wasn’t for my business, and independent #AvonRepresentative none of what I am about to share with you would be possible.

Here in #bermuda I met some amazing #women and men in my #business that I would never have met without being in this business.

By taking a genuine interest in the women I spent time with today I learned the following.

From left to right:

My sweet friend Ann Fritz is an amazing mother of twins! A boy and a girl and her absolute best friend of twenty years brought her into this business. Anne has achieved so much in life and in her business! She is also clearly more coordinated and athletic than any of us! #supermom

Tara L Erwin-Grna is truly One of the kindest women I have ever met! We shared some amazing stories that I will forever carry with me! What an amazing, strong, resilient person you are Tara! She is a #Zumba instructor, and always lights up the room!

Natasha Lightner is the worlds tiniest dynamite…. She is a tough little lady, and one heck of a business women! I found out she has a soft side lol she is as warm as they come…..She also has two beautiful boys just like me!

Then there’s me …. which you all know 😁

What we share In common is that we all came from #corporate America. We are women, friends, mothers, wives and #entrepreneurs trying to build our own #empire.

We love the #freedom and #independence our business has given us!

My favorite part of these photos….. they show #sisterhood, unity, and above all leadership.

Leadership is not a title, it’s not how much money you make or how many trophies 🏆 you have #leadership is a way of life, and who you are from the inside out.

We must always be cognoscente of how we impact those we encounter.

Be #happy, be #proud for others when they are winning, and lift them up when they are down. #Empower those that can’t seem to find the #potential you so vividly see in them. #Inspire those that are stuck. Role model #strength when people and things come in their path……

Be kind, be #constructive, be just enough tough and gentle to drive #momentum. Light the fire 🔥 within them not under them…..#Lead…….

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#cruiselikeaboss #avon #avonrepresentatives

Independent Mama

Feeling very #accomplished tonight! I always remind myself I’ve already won….. no matter what #blessings come my way…. my goal was to stay #home with my #children and build a home based #business I could call all our own! I did that the day I decided to take the leap and leave my corporate job to be an independent #Avon #Representative

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#avonrepresentatives #avonrep  #cruiselikeaboss #Bermuda

Cruisin’ Like a Mom Boss

 

The road isn’t easy….. but it’s worth it…. I think back on many of my hardest obstacles SO FAR IN LIFE… which I’ve illustrated some in my blog… www.beautifulleapoffaith.com ..now I know I’m only 30 and there is many more to come in my #blessed time here on this earth 🌏 and honestly I look forward to even the hard times…. because what’s come out of each experience good or bad is growth…. I think back on my most #influential moments like giving birth to my two little angels…. Gabriel and Elijah….. was it easy having two babies naturally lol … NO …. but look what I’ve gained. My children are my entire world…. not only did I experience a Love I never imagined I become the best version of myself and now here I am …. on a cruise in Bermuda…. was never in my field of vision…. on a simple decision I made to stay home with my babies I’ve never missed first, first words, or any important milestone with my babies….. that so many unfortunately don’t get to experience….. was it easy? Is it easy? NO …. but it’s worth it! The road to #success isn’t suppose to be easy…. if it was easy there would be no growth…. there would be nothing to work for… 

 

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Perfect Summer Hat! Avon Palm Chic Beach Please Hat!

The #best #hat 👒 truly ever made! How #irresistible is this #beach hat! A total must have in your #skincare #routine! The #ultimate #sun blocker! #SPF to the #max! So get your #Avon #anew spf #daycream, your Avon anew #vitaminCserum, anew #nightcream, of course your anew dual #eye system and your #palmchic beach hat to ensure #safest skin for the #summer!

Click Here to view the Avon Palm Chic Beach Please Hat!

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Avon Fashion Line: Palm Chic 2018

The #party 🎊 almost flopped but then the “Heather Jumpsuit” from the #palmchic #avonfashion signature collection …… and to make things even #sassier #Heather had #pockets and a #cinchedwaist …… #stop it right now heather …. you’ve #stolentheshow

Click Here to preview the Heather Jumper! Purchase for Only $39.99!

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Meet the “Kristen Knot Dress” how #beautiful is this green!!! It’s a #gorgeousday to #travel to the #tropics just another #fabulous #dress 👗 from #newAvon #palmchic signature #fashion line #palmtrees #summersun #avon#avonrep #avonfashion #avonjewelry #palmbeach #brand#mamaworksfromhome #mamas available now on my site!

Click Here to view the Kristen Know Dress! Purchase for Only $29.99!

Click Here to view the Kristen Know Dress! Purchase for Only $29.99!

#behold #bianca just entered the room! Meet the “Bianca dress” by #avonfashion #signature line #palmchic! What a #gorgeous piece! No need for a necklace as this has a higher #neckline however a #beautiful set of #avonearrings would be perfect! The great thing about #patterns is you can wear so many different #color #accessories with them! You could pair this #dress with just about any color #cardigan for a colder evening on the #boat 🚣‍♀️! Heels or flats it’s so #versatile! Thanks for another huge hit!

Click Here to Preview the Bianca Dress! Purchase for only $44.99!

#avonrep #avon #avonrepresentatives #fashionguru #summertime#summeroutfit #summerstyle #summersun #dresses #palmtrees #palmbeach #palms    #avonjewelry #icanteven #lookatthis #look#style  #palmbeach #mamasaboss #pattern #curves#canyouevenstandit #yas

Our Biggest Blessings

#Growingup on a #stage as a #competitive #dancer most of my #life and #showing #horses for so many years from #state to state ….. I have certainly had my share of #coaching and #critiquing …. can I tell you the race to #perfection is #exhausting …. I have #accomplished many “things” in my life and at a #young age at that…. I’d even been #accepted into a #major#modeling #agency … and shortly after I found out I was going to be a #Mommy … thank you #God for keeping me #grounded and bringing me through some of the #toughesttimes In #mylife …. our #biggeststruggle is always our #biggestblessing … you can #achieve and #accomplish thousands of #titles and #awards … be the top of everything, and fall in a heart beat. I’m so glad I know where to place my #faith and #values in my #life. I’m so #blessed and #thankful, the best role I’ve ever filled, the best place I’ve ever been, the best place I choose to be….. #wife and #Mommy 🙏 and that was given to me freely, no #performance or #title required.

#blessed🙏 #mommy #mommyandme #mommyblogger #blogger #beautyboss #avon #avonrep #avonrepresentative #Avon #avonrepresentatives #avonfashion #avon #beautiful #business #beautyboss #momlife #wifey

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“Do Not Be Anxious About Anything” Philippians 4:6

Hello there!

Thank you for being here.  You will find throughout my blog I share all things that inspire me in my personal life, that translate into my business.  I am extremely moved by scriptural verses, and I use them everyday in my personal and professional life.

Last night I went to an amazing women’s gathering at our church.  In conversation with a great friend, Ellie, I was inspired to share about her favorite verse; Philippians 4:6.

Do not be anxious about anything, but in every situation, by prayer and petition, with thanksgiving, present your requests to God. And the peace of God,which transcends all understanding, will guard your hearts and your minds in Christ JesusPhilippians 4:6-7 New International Version (NIV) 

Click here to visit the link I got this verse from.

There are countless times I forget to place my worries and anxieties about the future in God’s hands.  Everyday, I have to remind myself that God is in control, I am not the author, and all will be perfectly OK, just as he has planned, IF I LISTEN.

Especially, as women and mothers it seems we are constantly struggling to trust God, in our constant battle for control.  We try to have control over our children, our families, our homes, our careers, our success, our health, our nutrition, etc…,  and everyone around us too!  Isn’t that exhausting!

However, if you read the verse above, you can find peace.  Peace that we do not have to have all the answers, we are NOT in control, but He is.  Isn’t that great news.  I know it is to me, whether it be in my personal life or in my business.

I had been sharing how some days are very nerve-wracking for me and I feel extremely anxious about what the future holds.  Most of you know my story, how I walked away from a corporate position, to restart my business from zero. If you have not heard my story, PLEASE CLICK HERE TO READ MY STORY.

However, God seems to keep reminding me, I am right where I am supposed to be.  How can I go wrong choosing my home based business with my children, over a big title position far away from my family. Time after time, campaign after campaign, day after day I am blessed with new customers, and team members.  Whats-more, I am seeing other women and men empowered daily, to do the same.  What a blessing and gift.

I am sure there are more mothers than just me that have had the worry, “How am I going to pay for this?  How will I get groceries this week!”

God places us in the right places at the right time based on his perfect timing and plan for us, for reasons we cannot see or understand!

As we were all sharing the things that trouble us or burden us daily, the things that are heavy on our hearts, a good friend of mine shared this amazing story that I could relate to completely!

She said, “Carly I have to share this story with you, when I was a young mother about your age, I had the three boys.  My husband was away on business, I had literally no money, and no means to make dinner that night for the boys.  I took my youngest for a walk with me as the other boys were in school.  I can remember worrying the entire time.  All of a sudden my son ran slightly ahead of me and came running back with a $1 bill.  He was so excited, and at that time I knew I could at least get a carton of milk with it.  I was feeling a bit relieved, then a few feet ahead of us we ran into a small bundle of money, it was three $1 bills.  We had found a total of $4.00.  With that I walked to the grocery store, and bought milk, eggs, and bread, we had dinner that night. It wasn’t much, but it was enough to make dinner.”

There is so many times, I have worried myself to sleep wondering “How”, I was going to do this?! Was I crazy?  I gave up our security!  Then I am instantly reminded by Him, I am right were I am supposed to be in life and in business, and we will be OK.

This inspired me, and reminded me of so many situations I had been in with my family.  However, I have found peace in knowing that God has the plan, he has the answers. All is well.

I hope this verse gives you peace, and reminds you, that He is always listening, and all he asks is we believe in him.  Cast your cares on him.  Do not be anxious or worried, instead pray.

Blessings,

Carly ❤

 

Networking-Build Your Customer Base With These Small Daily Changes!

Hello gorgeous~

As I grow my amazing team daily, I find that each new Representative needs different things on their way to success.

Different things motivate and inspire people, just like finding new customers.

I put together a short video on how to make a few small changes in your daily routine, to build a strong customer base and lead bank to build your team! 

CLICK HERE TO BUILD YOUR CUSTOMER BASE TODAY!

Avon Bonus Program-Kick Start New Representative Program

Hello there Beautiful~

If you are a New Representative within your first 7 campaigns with Avon you are eligible for $$$ BIGGER BONUSES $$$!

Take a look at the post below, for a deep dive into the New Avon Representative Kick Start Bonus Program!

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As you can see as a New Representative you are eligible to earn a 40% commission when you achieve your Kick Start campaign sales goals!  

Past those 7 campaigns you will earn a percentage based on the amount of your total campaign sales!  This is a huge advantage! Take a look at How Do I Make Money with Avon?

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The Kick Start Program is strategically laid out to help you build a strong customer base over time!  The goal is to sell at minimum $450-$500 a campaign which sets you up to achieving Presidents Club!  If you sell between $450 and $500 per campaign for the full Avon cycle of 26 campaigns you will achieve over $10,000 in sales and achieve Presidents Club, and secure 40% earnings!  An Elite program for Avon’s Top Sellers, just like YOU potentially.  Take a look at  Building the Sale Up Selling and Cross Category Selling!  Grow Your Sales

Look at the difference in earnings when you achieve President’s Club or above!PRP chart earner

When your first three team members join your team within your first 7 campaigns you also earn a $50 bonus per qualified New Recruit! (*What’s a Qualified Recruit? Any Representative recruited during your Kick Start program who has an on-time, paid order of$150 or more during their first or second campaigns of appointment (by close of LOA 2).  

Past those 7 campaigns you earn a $20 bonus per qualifies new recruit!  Another huge advantage!  SO GET GOING!!  DON’T WAIT!!  ASK YOUR MENTOR FOR ASSISTANCE! 

What is EVEN BETTER…. You get a $50 for as many qualified new recruits as you want!  3 is just the minimum!  So if you invite 10 new recruits and they successfully place their first or second order of $150 or more and pay on time…. GUESS WHAT!!  That is an additional $500!!!!

Additionally, as if building a strong business isn’t beneficial enough!   Avon gives New Representatives an additional $200 Performance Bonus when they achieve all minimum Kick Start Requirements!

Okay, so how do I start building my customer base and adding new team members?

Take a look at  10 Tips to Creating Residual Income With Your Avon Business!

Much success to you, Beauty Boss! You CAN DO IT!

Promoting Growth-Mentoring Leaders that Take Action

Something I am very passionate about that every business needs to sustain growth far into the future is great mentor-ship of future leaders.

I find where many businesses and leaders fail is in the promotion and coaching of leaders on their team.  Often “Leaders” of businesses get stuck in the mindset of, “It is just easier if I do it,” “I can’t take the risk of something going wrong,” or, “No one can do it as good as me” mindset.  Can I tell you yes, it is easier at the moment, but you are wrong, it is risky, but you are wrong, and yes no one can do it as good as you because you haven’t mentored them, again you are wrong.  You are the one holding your business back if this is how you see things.  The upside to that is….. you also hold the key to success!  It’s completely up to you my friend!

If your goal is to be a business that is a, “one hit wonder” that lasts a good 10-20 years and falls apart when you step away, then stay with that mind set!

However, if your goal is to create and promote a business that competes long into the future and stays alive and well for years and years beyond your tenure then I encourage you to change the way you think, and continue reading!

 

So what is coaching/mentoring anyway? Based on my experience and training in the direct selling industry on both the corporate and independent consultant side of things it is mentoring, promoting self discovery, growth, and independence, to name a few.  Ultimately, leadership, in my eyes, is promoting independent, forward thinkers that continue growing, and promoting growth around them, to propel business far into the future.  Does your entire business stop when you step away?  If so, it is due to a lack of developing leaders.  If you ever want to retire and have your business live on, or simply take a vacation…… I suggest growing, and developing the number of leaders on your team.

First, you must become the best leader you can!  Research, seek out books on leadership, emotional intelligence, and mentoring. Seek your own mentor, someone who has a proven history of success in your field, someone that can coach and mentor YOU!  THIS IS IMPORTANT!  No one is perfect, and if we believe that we are, we are holding ourselves back…. dare I say….. Get over yourself, to better yourself?  I always say, “Stay in a student’s mind set, ALWAYS!”  We can never stop learning and growing.  The day we do, is the day we have nothing new to offer the future!  FIND A MENTOR that “Stretches” you.  Someone that challenges your comfort zone, and sees things you DO NOT see!

I was a competitive dancer most of my life, from 18 months old I was on a stage performing.  I can still here my instructors say, “If it hurts, you are doing it right,” or “No pain, no gain.”  The same principals apply in leadership and business!  If you feel a bit out of your element, stay there until you feel comfortable again, and then find something else to be, “Uncomfortable” about, and start growing there.  DO NOT take the easy road and quit when it gets tough, you will only be quitting YOURSELF!  There is no growth in comfort zones!

Before we can coach others we must be coached! 

Have you learned to identify areas of opportunity in your business?  How many Representatives on your team can you truly say are continuously growing their business?  Is anyone declining in sales? Anyone plateaued in sales?  Anyone growing slightly in sales each campaign?  Anyone growing at a rapid rate in sales campaign after campaign, year after year? Anyone that has started their leadership team, and stopped finding recruits?  Anyone building their team at an incredible rate, but not quite growing their title?

What does your 1:1 schedule look like with each one of your team members?  Do you know what each of your team members goals are?  The reason I ask these two questions together is because you cannot build your schedule without understanding what their goals are, or how much time you will need to dedicate to each team member.  Understanding what their personal and business goals are will help you build a strong calendar that promotes growth for each team member based on the time they have to dedicate to their business and the goals they express to you!

Need help getting this info from them?

Take a survey! I find google forms is a great way to gather information as you can text, post and even email out a simple link they can click on quickly and reply with ease!

For example:  A team member that states they are looking to build a full time income based business that pays all their monthly bills, will certainly require more coaching/mentoring from you.  They may need to connect more than once a week for their 1:1 coaching time with you!

A team member that is simply starting their business for a personal discount may only need or want to connect 1 a month or through email and text only!  You see…. we must know their purpose for being here, and where they want to go and by when! The reason we need to know “By when,” is for accountability and a deadline.  Knowing when they want to achieve their goals is directly related to their goal.

For example:  If the team member states their goal is to pay off their debt in 6 months, depending on how much debt they have you will want to create a sales plan WITH THEM, DO NOT create it for them.  It will not promote leadership, if you have worked through the planning on your own.  Additionally, it will make the process personal.  Create a sales plan each campaign that will generate a certain amount of money each month to go toward their debt.  The sales plan must be strategically created so that each month of the 6 months goal is evenly spread and realistic.  Setting unrealistic, lofty goals will result in disappointment if they do not reach their goals, which will hurt the retention and moral on your team!  We want our team members to ACHIEVE, not fail!  Express this to them when creating the plan with them!  With a deadline we can set a pace!

Throughout the plan their must be, check points.  What are check points?  Throughout the timeline (while their is still time to course correct if they are not on pace to achieve their goal) have a 1:1 connection with them.  Ask them, “Based on the plan you created  to pay off your debt in 6 months, you decided to sell $600 this campaign.  We still have 5 days left in the campaign, how are your sales so far?” Their answer will drive your  coaching conversation.  However, whether they have overshot their goal or undershot their goal, you will want to ask, “What did you do, or what have you been doing to achieve that?”  If they are falling short or are ahead of their goal, what they have done up to this point will be the cause.  Either way they still have time, due to the checkpoint placement, to impact their progress towards their goal.  STAY in TOUCH, recognize them at each point of their journey!  Coach them through the process.  The sense of accomplishment and overwhelming gratitude they will have for you will be unbelievable!  Recognize them personally, and publicly (if they allow)!  Set their next goal and timeline, then repeat!

The coaching you give them will be an example of how they will coach their team as they start building!   What we do and do not do set an example for our future leaders.

Identify potential leaders! Of course there will always be those individuals that are natural leaders. These individuals simply take off running!  Some of these types are what I call “Sprinters in a marathon.”  These individuals start out FULL SPEED, and burn out in the home stretch, or when things get tough.  I find this type of leader may not necessarily need “Skill building” mentoring on a task per say, but rather consistent recognition along the way, reminding them of the small things they have achieved.  

Often this type is a high achiever, that is incapable of seeing their successes because they are only looking for the HUGE WINS, or simply going to fast.  The RPM’s are too high!  We want them to, “Stop and smell the roses.”  It is up to us to open their eyes to all they have accomplished along the way, pacing them to avoid a burnout, and coaching them through the burnout if it happens. 

In the aftermath, as their coach/mentor be sure to use the burnout (if it happens) as a tool for mentoring moving forward.  “What do you think got you to this point?” (Self Discovery is so important) “How did that make you feel?”  Did you reach your goal, or fall short?”  (If fallen short)  What do you think caused this?” “What do you feel you could do differently in the future to promote a different outcome?”  Open ended questions such as this, give the leader an opportunity to not only self reflect, but to also self discover, and recreate their own plan of action for the future. 

They may not realize it but this is a huge step in growing as a leader, and the burnout was actually a great event in their journey that will strengthen them as a future leader.  However, they may not realize this without a great coach/mentor helping them self discover, and supporting them along the way.  Never assume someone, doesn’t need your coaching, believe it or not there can be leaders that need to slow down, to gain speed in the marathon, “Slow down to gain momentum I suppose.” Stay close to them.  Many GREAT leaders are lost this way!  BUT NOT UNDER YOUR WATCH! 

There are individuals that are high personal performers but do not and have nor ever see themselves as leaders.  I have learned that most times people do not see their own potential because if they did, we would all be successful leaders!  I know this because in actuality, the beautiful thing is, EVERYONE has the potential to be a great leader, leadership is something that can be learned and nurtured with great mentor-ship!  Which YOU have to offer!

I find these individuals also, simply need recognition of what they don’t see!  Recognize them for their success, have a conversation with them, I bet they don’t EVER celebrate their personal wins!  CALL THEM OUT!  Share with them, the skills that you see IN THEM, and how they could influence great leadership and foster an incredibly successful team that mimic the same behaviors they exhibit if they are open and willing to learn and grow with your coaching/mentoring!

Yes, I said, IF.  It is crucially important to always ask permission, feel them out, are they open and receptive to learning and growing?  Or are they happy where they are?  Either is fine, but what you DO NOT want to do is, “Sink the ship to save 1 person or a few,” that are simply happy staying where they are.  Again, in direct selling we are our own boss, so remember it is perfectly OK that they may want to stay where they are.  Not everyone wants a huge business.  So give them recognition consistently, but do not spend all your time coaching and mentoring someone that is not interested.   For one, you are wasting your time, and their time.  For two you are not giving your mentoring talent to someone who is eager and in need of it! 

There is a difference between skill and will.  A person can have the will with no skill (the skill can be learned), but they cannot have skill with no will, at least not for growth!  So essentially, it is very important to 1: know what each member of your team is here for, and why did they start their business? Also, 2: Where do they want to go with their business, and what are their goals? Plan accordingly.

There are individuals that may appear as if they want the business growth, but really just want your time.  Again, it is our job to help them self discover.  I have worked with many individuals, that I found when I stopped driving, they would, “Fall apart”, or at least their business would.  I found that often this type of individual is looking more for, your time, a companion, or friendship, which again, is also FINE!  However, help them identify what they really are in need of before you start putting all your valuable time and energy into their growth.  If time is all they want, grab coffee with them weekly, and recognize them on their wins each week!  However, DO NOT spend all your time coaching someone that is not interested in growing for the growth of their business, to reach their goals.

Many people come to direct selling to socialize and build a circle of acquaintances, and new friends.  They may simply want to learn to socialize!  So socialize with them, and show them how they can grow their business here and there while learning to socialize, and gain a new network of friends!  2 for 1 special! 

There is the “Humble, high achiever” I like to call them!  The best quality, in my opinion, in potential leaders, and the ones that win the marathon, are the ones that are, “Coach-able.”  What do I mean?  The individual I am referencing here is open, and excited about being coached, and often self corrects and identifies areas off opportunity to grow before you even step into the picture.  These individuals may be able to recognize it, they simply need help identifying, “What to do now?”  They know they want to grow, and where they need the growth, but are not exactly sure how to make that growth happen.

This is where you come in. As always, promote self discovery, ask open ended questions that promote building their own plan, with a timeline, and deadlines.  This will also instill accountability, a great characteristic all leaders NEED!

A goal with out a plan of action, time line, and deadline, is a fantasy.  Create a plan WITH THEM, and check points to connect on.  Identify where they are pacing against their goals.  At these check points, adjust accordingly, course correct in correlation with their goals and the deadline THEY’VE set!

VERY IMPORTANT! Know that whether or not the individual achieves their goal, there is a huge lesson and opportunity for growth presented.  If the goal is reached, GREAT!  Start the self discovery/coaching conversation.  Ask them: “What did you do that you felt helped you achieve your goal?” “What do you feel may have off set the achievement of your goal ?”  “What will you change in the future?” “How do you feel about your achievement?” (Tying an emotion to an achievement or lack of achievement is so important.  Often people may not remember the instance, or what was said, but they will remember how they felt, and if they want to feel that way again.  As humans, I feel, we are wired to either chase pleasant feelings again (achievement) or avoid unpleasant feelings (non achieved goals) again.  Identifying this emotion will help them set their next goal, or whether the goal was to high or the timeline was too short for the goal they set.  Either way let THEM set THEIR OWN goals.  Even if we know the goal may be too high or the timeline may be too short. There are times the best mentoring is NOT in the mentor stating, “That is NOT going to work,” the best way to coach in my experience is letting them set the goal and allowing their outcome to coach them the next time. Other wise if you step in and auto correct their decision they will never experience what DOESN’T work, and may try it in the future.  “What is your next goal?” “When will you achieve this goal?”  If they DO NOT achieve the goal the same principals apply! “What do you feel contributed to this outcome?”  “What do you feel may have off set the achievement of your goal ?”  “What will you change in the future?” “How do you feel about your achievement?” “What is your next goal?” “When will you achieve this goal?” Be sure they KNOW this is not a failure, or a place to quit, in every “weakness” their is opportunity for growth.  I believe there are no weakness simply opportunities!

At the end of the day, they must want it more than you!

In summary:

  • Become the best leader you can -never stop researching and growing yourself!
  • Seek out and stay connected to your own mentor, and accountability coach!
  • Do what you say, and say what you’ll do!  Remember you are a role model for future leaders
  • Identify the different types of potential leaders!
  • Ask their permission to coach and mentor them!
  • Gain their commitment and buy in!
  • Identify what they need.
  • Have the conversation!  Why are they here? What are their goals?
  • Create a plan of action (WITH THEM) based on their goals\
  • Have check points along the time line to check their pace, and course correct as needed to remain on track to their goal!
  • Ask open ended questions that promote self discovery
  • Reflect on outcomes
  • Offer recognition
  • Set future goals!

As always, stay close to your mentor, never stop learning and growing.  My mother always said, “No one and nothing can take away your mind, faith, memories, or education.”  Fill that brain with as much knowledge as you can!  You will have more to offer those that you coach the more you learn!  Of course if you know me, I must add a little faith will always carry you!  Faith is powerful!